Letters to Exes

The art of letter writing is a dying one.. I remember getting so excited whenever I received one.
I am also partial to getting the last word in..so that’s led me to today’s post..
Letters to Exes…

I believe all relationships that come to an end should serve as life lessons. Now, some do more than others, so I’m picking a Top 5 of sorts.. mainly because that’s my lucky number..and because I have no intention of filling up this blog with all my past transgressions.. so here goes nothing:

Letter #1:
Dear CG,
You never forget your first love. So, I will never forget you. I learned so many things from our relationship. Namely, since you were my first kiss that I simply adore kissing. Most of the firsts that come along with puppy love were to follow..including my first broken heart. Thankfully, I also learned that you can indeed survive one. Actually, I learned you can survive it not once, but twice. Fortunately, now I am older and wiser and just know that it was definitely a stepping stone for things to come..
So thanks for the memories good and even bad, -JJ

Letter #2:
Dear JP,
I learned that some guys should come with a warning label. As a matter of fact, many should have one tattooed on their forehead. You, would be, one of those people. Maybe, some women should come with one too. But make no mistake, a warning label would save a whole lotta folks a whole lotta trouble. And, it doesn’t have to be that detailed.. a simple “Warning: Stay Away” would suffice.
No I just hope you find someone who loves the same two things that you do. -JJ

Letter #3:
Dear AS,
Timing..everything is a matter of timing..this is just one of the things I took from our time together. Also, it is nice to be friends with someone before you get involved any further. It brings a certain level of comfort to the situation. The only sad part is it further adds to the broken heartedness when it ends because you not only lose someone you love but a friend as well. I had truly convinced myself we would last forever. but, I think at the age of 18 you think that way about everything…
So, then I learned everything happens for a reason. And again, you can always pick yourself up and dust everything off and keep on trucking.

Now, One of us is married, and happy, with kids.. so see? It does work out.. Congratulations -JJ


Letter #4:
Dear JL,
Everyone is looking for something..and sometimes people think they can find it in another person. Others attempt to find what they are looking for in different ways. So, I learned it is okay to have hopes and dreams and to believe in them and believe in someone else’s. but you have to eventually choose, decide, pick, hone in on..something/someone. And, you have to be willing to compromise..but not on yourself or your beliefs. I grew up a lot in the time we were together and in that time I learned a lot about me. I think life’s journey is about learning about yourself and if you can do that alongside someone else it can only enhance it.. but sometimes it doesn’t. Every once in a while, it hurts more than it helps.
So to you I hope you do find what you are looking for. -JJ

Letter #5:
Dear CC,
“a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.”
I admit I found that in a book I read recently..so I can’t take the credit for it. But yes, walls were torn down, I was “smacked” awake so-to-speak. Then, I set out on making plans for a future..our future..
But I should have known just as soon as I had some ideas, a little thing like life would bring me back to reality. I bet all I had on a thing called love, but in the end, I learned it wasn’t enough. And, so the lesson is..sometimes even love is a gamble. And, just because you want one thing doesn’t mean the other person does. You made the choice and went where you really wanted to be. I can do nothing now but respect that.
I only ever wanted you to be truly happy, which is really what love is about….being happy… But JMCC AND JLCC and good luck. -JJ


In the wake of my “letters” this came out as well.. I haven’t written a poem in ages.. I guess maybe because I technically “write” every day.. but nevertheless here it is..

I am haunted by a ghost
But, not the kind of which scary movies boasts.
It is of a past,
that did not last,
the forever that was promised to me.
So, now I turn my head and hope to see
the hands, the heart, and the face
that will help erase
what lingers from a hope so pure
that made each breath more sure
of what I thought there was to be..
the you.. the me..the we..
But I.. I was not your choice
And now I'm left with no voice
Be happy.. for that is what meant most
And I.. I will forever hold my ghost


SONGS OF THE DAY:
"Don’t Dream It’s Over" –Crowded House and
“Some Day When I Stop Loving You” –Carrie Underwood